This tight pussy myth benefits no one. Can we put it to rest once and for all?
I’m going to be real candid with you~
Tight pussy is generally performative. Girls learn that it is the gold standard of sexual desirability, and until they know better, they often perform in order to achieve this hypertonic pelvic state.
>>> Squeeze, narrow and contract <<<
In other words, cut off your life-force and blood flow.
This is the opposite of a woman’s turn-on. A woman in true, deep pleasure opens. She wants more.
Squeezing diminishes sensation. It locks it out.
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‘Tight pussy’ is for him. The whole concept is based on the premise that the tighter a woman’s vagina, the more enjoyable sex will be for the man. As if virginal pussy is superior to the rich, seasoned pussy of a mother or lover.
To each their own.
But I’ll tell you something. My pussy is as healthy, vital, and toned as she has ever been, and I have birthed two children naturally through my vagina.
TMI?
There’s plenty more where that came from.
As a woman in my mid-forties, I am more sensually alive than I have ever been. I don’t need to squeeze my pussy in order to increase my desirability. My desirability is a direct reflection of the Eros I cultivate in my body.
While squeezing your pussy can be a fun party trick, it should not be a sexual standard to which women consistently aspire. That’s like holding your breath all the time.
What if you opened and allowed Eros to flow instead?
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When I am in full feminine bloom, my pussy is open, wet and soft. She is pulsing and hungry for more.
She is not ‘tight.’
Rather than coveting ‘tight pussy’, perhaps we could celebrate a woman’s true arousal instead.
(Ironically, a woman in this state may feel tight, but that’s not because she’s gripping- it is because she is wet and fully engorged.)
I believe that most of the men in my life are mature lovers of women. I deeply appreciate you.
But there is an archetype of the immature male with whom I’d love to have a word. This type of dude is perfectly characterized in the photo below:
I’d love to approach this group and say,
‘Hey fellas!
Just curious…
Are you open to exploring the slow burn of feminine desire?
Or do you just want ‘tight pussy?’’
If they chose the latter because it scored them points with their bros, I would suggest that they have some sexual maturing to do.
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To know the nature of a truly ripe woman, you need to take your time. A woman opens slowly, like a flower. She cannot be rushed.
An integrated woman has a strong voice, tender heart and open pussy. Eros moves through her with ease. She is a force of nature.
This woman doesn’t need to grip her pussy. She understands the wisdom opening instead. She is a channel for creation, truth and power.
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Woman,
Let yourself feel. Allow your sex to be for you. It is an expression of your soul through your body.
Opening is tender. Revelation is vulnerable. I understand.
But the more you open, the more you emerge. It is wildly sensational to allow yourself to be seen and felt, but it is your birthright. Contracting, closing and blocking will wilt your soul.
As Anais Nin once said,
‘And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was greater than the risk it took to blossom.’
Blossom.
You are designed to expand into generous, radiant expression. Let us feel you, woman.
Open wide.